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Little Pink Book: The Fickleness of Online Dating Doesn’t Have to Work Against You

Little Pink Book is a blog series about dating smarter, not harder as an ambitious, Christian, millenial woman in a big city. Read the rest of the series here. If you’d like to contribute, send us a pitch here.Β 

TThe first time I got rejected by a guy I met online, it really sucked. I’m used to the idea that when I meet someone I feel a mutual attraction with, it’s special. Offline, I’m not meeting people I want to mutually get to know better very often. So imagine my surprise when a guy who said he enjoyed talking to me suddenly told me that we shouldn’t talk anymore.

What I didn’t understand about online dating then is that it’s fickle. People are bombarded with options on a daily basis. When you’re speaking to someone who is one of many, that person isn’t terribly special (at least not at first).

That’s a double edged sword of online dating–being to made to feel undervalued–but on the other hand, I’ve found that it’s key to avoiding placing a guy on a pedestal and dealing with rejection.

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New Blog Series: Little Pink Book

II am a firm believer that girls should date smart. There’s too much advice telling us not to be too picky, and not enough advice telling us to be intentional with what we want or that we should have standards. I’m not here for taking what I can get. I’m here for respect, good conversations, and meeting my non-negotiables.

I know dating isn’t perfect in 2018 (or ever), but I’m big on learning from experience and not making the same mistake twice (…ok, three times). Little Pink Book is a blog series encompassing the lessons I learn in dating as an ambitious, Christian twentysomething in a big city. It’s about stories. It’s about enjoying the journey while taking ourselves seriouslyΒ enough. It’s about learning to laugh at things that used to make us cry. I want Little Pink Book to empower us start a conversation about how to make dating work for us, and not the other way around.

I’m excited about this project, and I hope you are too! Please feel free to share your stories–I’d love to hear them. Here’s to 2018 being our year.

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2017 Was Hard, But I’m Still Grateful

MMerry Christmas & happy holidays! Tradition dictates that the end of the year is when we reflect on the past year, so here’s my version. This year was a strange one. There were some heavy losses mixed in with the start of some really promising things.

The hard stuff included a death of a close loved one, being rejected from professional school again & the blow to my career dreams. Outside of myself, this has been a crazy yearΒ  for current events, from Hurricanes Irma and Maria, to the slave trade in Libya, to the Rohingya refugee crisis, to the growing gap between the rich & the underprivileged in Canada & the US.

The good stuff included starting grad school, getting closer with my family & friends, dating, having hope for the future, doing more than I thought I was capable of, completing my year without makeup, and just not having to worry about too much in the grand scheme of things.

Here’s what I’m grateful for in 2017.

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Book Review: The Defining Decade by Meg Jay, PhD

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aAdulting has been hitting meΒ hard lately, girl. I got the sudden and rather difficult message that life is finite and what I do with myself and my time counts. My 20s feels like a scribble: a bunch of squiggles (experiences, hopes, likes, dislikes, memories) that I often can’t make heads or tails of. Sometimes I get so confused as to where my life is headed that I start to panic and do things. Things like anxiously waiting for The Defining Decade by Meg Jay to be back in circulation at the library.

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